To me, friendship is a relationship where both individuals can have a great time together, with whom there are less ego fights, with whom I can have open conversations, and who will prove loyal. A good friend always appreciates the good qualities in a friend, tries to mend the negative qualities, and encourages an honest and open relation. A good friend is a sense of inspiration and motivation. Good friends learn from each others’ mistakes.
Based on my experiences, I have explored the different types of friends I have found in my life, and what we can expect from each of these types.
The “we work together/we’re classmates” Friends
These people are your friends because you work or go to school with them and happen to get along well together. You try to know a little bit about them so that you don’t have to always only talk about work/school related stuff, or get awkward silences.
You will most likely have their names in your cell phone because you have called them once or twice to coordinate social events, but you wouldn’t call them out of the blue “just to say hi”. You have them on Friendster, Facebook and MSN but a conversation is rarely initiated unless it’s about:
a) Work
b) Homework
c) “How’s your new company? Did you get a pay raise?”
d) “What are your grades? How many As did you get?”
If you see them from across the street when you’re out shopping, you will try to pretend you didn’t see them so that you do not have to strike up a conversation out of nothing. LOL. Sad, but it’s true.
The “we hang out together at work/school” Friends
These people are usually the ones we call good acquaintances. You go to school with them, you sit next to them in class, lab, canteen (or other settings), but you don’t really have a lot to talk to them most of the time, unless in a large group. You most likely know their first and last name, sort of know their character, and their basic likes and dislikes. You have them on Friendster/ Facebook and MSN. You talk occasionally on MSN, but not much,
If you were to run into them in the streets, the conversations would only last for a few minutes. You’d start with “HEY!!”, give a big grin, then ask “what are you doing here?!” and end with a “okay, see you!”. But you never actually really want to see them because you wouldn’t take the time to have coffee or dinner with them. HAHAHA.
The “I think we can click well” Friends
These are the people who share the same interests with you. You both listen to the same kind of music, like many similar stuff and you think that it will be so cool to be each other’s friends. And that’s about it. These are the kind of friends who easily drift away from you once you start to lose contact, or when your favourite band just disbanded.
They are also the ones who will look for you to hang out with when their closer friends are all unavailable, and promptly ditch you like a post-it once they have their closer friends to hang out with. Woops.
The “Online” Friends
This is the most uncommon type of friend, but they can also be the most precious. Simply because you both are strangers, you can pour your feelings to them.
“Those who know us well want details and specifics; strangers allow us to operate more vaguely on a cosmic scale. You can only say “I feel like I’ve known you for years” to someone you have not known for years.”
I once had a “Online Friend” on ICQ from years ago. We really could talk about anything. Too bad we stopped using ICQ and well, life just goes on. But It was good while it lasted.
The “my friends are friends with your friends so I guess we’re friends, too” Friends
This kind of friends is what Nokia’s slogan is all about: Connecting People. I am sure all my friends totally know what this means. They meet, hang out, and the cycle goes on with their other Circles of Friends down under.Everyone will eventually know everyone else in this big “Circle of Friends”. These are the people whom you will invite to your big birthday parties or big social gatherings. They will have a lot of fun together, have food and drinks, but usually after chatting for an hour or so, that’s enough.
Whether or not they have anything much to say to each other on a one-to-one basis depends on something we call chemistry. They are fated to know each other but it’s really their choice to bring their friendship up to another level or remain at the “handshake level”.
The “we should do something, sometime” Friend
These are people whom you know fairly well but let’s be frank here: you are not really interested in having lunch or dinner with them alone, and chatting one-on-one. In fact, you have to constantly crack your brains to think of another superficial thing to talk about. It’s not that you guys have nothing to talk about, but it just takes effort to keep the conversation going. Another example for this type of friend is someone whom you haven’t been keeping in touch too much with, but if he or she is visiting town or going abroad, it would be fun to meet up for food and drinks just to chat and catch up on old times.
The “let’s meet up!” Friend
These are what you call, your close friends. They are the ones whom you would enjoy having lunch or dinner one-on-one, enjoy holding a conversation with, and enjoy joking with.. You guys always have a great time at dinner together, sharing laughs, memories and many great camwhoring sessions. It’s the case where, when you put everyone together, you have an even better time.
The thing about this type of friend is that they make it a point to keep in touch with you because they actually do miss you, and they really want to spend time with you and know what’s up with your life, and share with you theirs. Oh, and they will remember your birthday and never fail to wish you.
The “you totally know how I feel” Friend
This kind of friend is also known as “the great minds think alike” friend. You guys are almost always on the same frequency, think in the same logic and feel things in the same way. Whenever you say something, the other party will go “YA YA YA THAT’S EXACTLY HOW I FEEL TOO!” or “OMG, YOU THINK LIKEWISE TOO!!”, then you both will end up high-fiving each other in laughters/giggles, and the feeling is just fabulous.
You guys can really talk about anything under the sun, and you totally understand how each other feel. This friend makes you feel good all the time because you know for sure that somewhere out there, someone agrees with you.
The “BEST” Friend
Also known as your closest friends in life. (They will usually be your maid of honour or best man during your wedding.) You like to talk to each other on the phone all the time. You always have a great time eating dinner together with him/her alone on a semi-regular basis and chatting one-on-one for hours. Heck, you can easily spend the whole day with each other everyday. Compatibility and rapport is always present so much so that both people enjoy each other’s company and share genuine laughs (I mean HAHAHAHA LOL stop making me laugh my stomach hurts kind of laugh, not the ha ha kind of laughs).
Being with this type of friends can be both fun and emotionally fulfilling. They make you feel happy to be alive.
The “Significant Other” Friend
The significant other is known by many names, most frequently called boyfriend, girlfriend husband or wife. They are the ones you share your life with. They are the people who love you, and you love them too. You can totally be yourself when you’re around them. Need I say more?
Associates Friends
were people who only shared a common activity, like a hobby or a sport.Useful contacts Friends
were people who shared information and advice, typically related to work or advancing ones career.
Favor friends
were people who helped each other out in a functional manner, but not in an emotional manner.
Fun friends
were people who socialized together, but only for fun. They didn’t provide each other with a deep level of emotional support.
Helpmate Friend
were a combination of favor friends and fun friends. They socialized together and helped each other out in a functional manner.
Comforters
were like helpmates, but they also provided emotional support.
Confidants
disclosed personal information to each other, enjoyed each other’s company, but weren’t always in a position to offer practical help, for example if they lived far away.
Soulmates
displayed all of the elements.
The Old Friend:
Ideally, a lifelong bond that stirs fond feelings and cherished memories—unless you’re a celebrity or out on parole. In reality, most old friendships are embedded in a complex economy of favors. President Bush rewrote the entire tax code for his old friends.
The Older Friend:
Two varieties:
(1) Someone your senior who mentors you with wit and wisdom,
(2) The client of an escort service,
The New Friend: Generally speaking, a person who can do no wrong until you’ve had a few more outings together. New friends are more likely to enjoy your stories and show up on time. It’s also easier to be who you are with a new friend, as opposed to who you were—which is what you end up being most of the time with your old friends.
The Wild Friend:
The friend whose bad behavior never ceases to entertain and may at times inspire you, for better or for worse. Though wild friends get a bad rap, they save as many lives as they ruin. Boring people—writers, for instance—desperately need wild friends.
The Scary Friend:
Someone who never fails to nudge you out of your comfort zone—way out. Scary does not mean quirky. If a friend likes to spend his weekends re-enacting Civil War battles in period dress, that’s quirky. If he shows up at your door in uniform late on a weeknight, that’s scary.
The Boss Friend:
A person higher on the org chart who thinks your brittle smile and the startled look in your eye is an invitation to further terrorize you outside the workplace. One reason golf is popular in the business world is that it gives underlings a way to pal around with their superiors and still stay 30 yards apart.
The Train or Bus Friend:
A person who apparently shares your unquenchable interest in the weather and the fortunes of the local ball team.
The Confidant:
Someone who wheedles more out of you than you planned to share. Sadly, many confidants are also talented gossips who will soon be bartering your deepest secrets for someone else’s.
The Single-Modifier Friend:
Any companion you proudly describe, if only to yourself, with one word: for instance, "my gay friend" if you happen to be straight, and vice versa. You can train yourself out of the habit by slowly adding modifiers, as in "my neat gay friend" or, with practice, "my socially inept and secretly homophobic straight friend with a god awfully bad haircut."
The E-mail Friend:
A digital update on the kind of letter-writing friendships that thrived in the era between the invention of ink and the arrival of cable. If the medium is the message, then the message of most e-mail friendships is goofing off at work.
The Special-Interest Friend:
Group friendships form around a shared passion—for basketball, cooking, sky-diving. Special-interest friends often go by nicknames, usually be-cause they don’t know real names or anything else about each other beyond their common interest. Which can create problems.
The Credit Card Friend:
Is the kind of friend that always saying "Pare pede pautang next week ang bayad?"
Based on these categories can you choose which one are u?
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